Wednesday 19 February 2020

WHY MANY PASTORS DIE YOUNG? THE AUTOPSY OF A PASTOR

WHY MANY PASTORS DIE YOUNG?   THE AUTOPSY OF A PASTOR 


In the past few days, a couple of pastors I know have gone to glory in their prime. While many may say many things from the spiritual angle only, I resist the temptation of being naive and gullible. 

~ One died going to drop his members after Sunday service. He probably died due to over-exhaustion of his health.

~ Post activities exhaustion led to fatigue and accident that took the life of one of the most handsome young vibrant zealous man of God I know in Ghana. 

~ A Nigerian female Pastor slumped and died in the United States and her host couldn't even try to connect the family because they can't afford the $,5000 morgue fee. They allowed the govt to set her for mass burial if not for a friend in USA that alerted us two days before and effort was made to trace her family in Lagos by my friend - after many inquiries.

CAUSE: Pressure and failed hope. 

~ Another died in his sleep after Friday night vigil. If he had taken adequate care of his health, maybe he will still be alive by now.

The story never ends. 

~ Another died because none was available to help, even the members he burnt his life for and the so called ministers and spiritual sons and daughters were no where to be found in his hours of needs.

~ Most of these people are Bishops with good standing, viable ministries and graduates from good universities. 

We conducted mild medical examinations for some Pastors after one of our meetings few years ago, about 200 pastors participated. 

I insisted that no minister above 40yrs of age will leave without being evaluated by the medical team, except those in their twenties and early thirties. 

The result was mind bugling, 

~ over 30% had a elevated BP within 180 systolic 90 diastolic. 

~ 15 had extreme high BP above 200/120.  

~ 28% had diabetics, 

~ 16% had elevated PSA,  

• Blood cultures done, showed that over 60% had different levels of bacteremia. 

• Psychological analysis revealed that over 7O% had emotional problems they could not share with anyone. 

• Urine analysis and smear tests were not friendly either. 

• Eye examinations shows levels of deficiency and stress induced factors. 

**Most of these pastors never know they had these problems... That is the sad part of the news.

>They were the walking corpses physically even though spiritually alive

>They are dead emotionally.

>Their vision and passion is dead.

>Their spiritual life has little life at all.

>They are burnt out.

>Many have died vocationally. 

>Others are waiting for burial.

Autopsies is not a pleasant topic, I get that, but I would be negligent if I did not share with you about the numbers of pastors who are dead in the ministry. 

You need to know. 

You need to grasp this reality. 

You need to pray for them. 

You need to walk alongside with them.

HOW DID THESE PASTORS DIE? 

My figurative autopsies uncovered eight common patterns. 

Some pastors manifest four or five of them. Many manifest all of them.

1. They said “YES” to too many members. 

In order to avoid conflict and criticism, these pastors tried to please most church members. Their path was not sustainable. Their path was unhealthy, leading to death.

2. They said “NO” to their families. 

For many of these pastors, their families became an afterthought or no thought at all. Many of their children are now grown and resent the church. They have pledged never to return. Their spouses felt betrayed, as if they were no longer loved, desired, or wanted. Some of these pastors have lost their families to divorce and separation.

3. They got too busy to remain in the Word and in prayer. 

Simply stated, they got too busy for God. Read Acts 6:4 again in the context of all of Acts 6:1-7. The early Church leaders saw this danger, and they took a courageous path to avoid the trap.

4. They died a slow death from the steady drip of criticisms. 

Pastors are human. Yeah, I know; that’s an obvious statement. We sometimes expect them to take the ongoing criticisms from members as if they were rocks. But a steady drip can destroy even the most solid rocks.

5. They were attacked by the cartel. 

Not all churches have cartels, but many do. A church cartel is an alliance of bullies, bully-followers, carnal Christians, and even non-Christians in the Church. Their goal is power. Their obstacle is the pastor. Many pastors have died because cartels killed them.

6. They lost their vision and their passion. 

This cause of death is both a symptom and a cause. Like high blood pressure is a symptom of other problems, it can also lead to death. Pastors without vision and passion are dying pastors.

7. They sought to please others before God. 

People-pleasing pastors can fast and easily become dying pastors. The problem is that you can never please all the members all the time. If Pastors try, they die.

8. They had no defenders in the church. 

Imagine a dying person with no medicare (medical intervention).

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Saturday 15 February 2020

Masturbation And Its Effects, Virgins And Masturbation

Masturbation And Its Effects, Virgins And Masturbation



Ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I'm not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.
Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear says about sex.
Masturbation is fondling your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitoris while guys rub, massage or caress their penis. I decided to give explicit explanation because some ask me what masturbation is. Some ladies especiallly non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a penis and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).

From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex. It's a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may wake up feeling horny for no single reason in the world or go hot on spotting a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the image off. You may get worked up on watching a romantic movie and discharge something. You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven't committed any sin.
So what then do you do when you get hot and horny? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate! They give themselves release and pleasure through solo sex while claiming virginity at the same time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:

1. Masturbation is not done in isolation. It is done with the image of someone in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. That is #MENTAL_FORNICATION
2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with man except objects during your solo sex.
3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don't enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won't be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won't have feelings for your husband's penis. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands' penis are too small didn't marry as virgins. They must have been promiscous as singles.
4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won't enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating. Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair. Self control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife
pleasure too. That is why total virginity pays!
5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ retarded ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant? It's the reason some women are seemingly "barren" and can't talk to anybody out of embarrassment. Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether. You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that comes with sex IN MARRIAGE!
6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown person
7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.
8. You start getting unsatisfied and wants the real thing. You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.
9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers -you become promiscous.
10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.
These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your sexual urge?
How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?
1. Avoid all dirty pictures, pornography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful sexual triggers!
2. Avoid friends who say dirty,lewd and obscene things. Stop all sexy banters with friends and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful.
3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.
5. Study the word a lot especially Psalm 119. When you are filled with the word, you have no space for the devil and his demons in your heart.
6. Pray to God for help
7. Make friends with godly people.
8. Avoid pornography and romantic movies.
9. Get busy in kingdom service.
Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic, destructive and sinful. Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply involved in it.
You can win the fight against masturbation addiction
YOUR HEALTH IS OUR PRIORITY!